So you finally managed to score a date with that hot brunette you've been eyeing for the last few weeks. Great! Now what? What do you say to make a good impression? Sometimes, it's more important knowing what not to say instead. Here are five things you should never say to a woman on a first date.
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1. Shower her with compliments
We men are visual creatures and there's nothing we enjoy more than laying our eyes on the alluring curves of a beautiful woman. But even if your date is drop dead gorgeous, showering her with compliments isn't the way to win her over.
Put yourself in her shoes for a second. As an attractive woman, you will constantly get attention from men who put you on a pedestal because of your looks. Sure it's flattering in the beginning, but after awhile it becomes tiring, repetitive and predictable.
Thinking of telling your date she has beautiful eyes? Think again. She's already had fifty other guys tell her that this week. Separate yourself from the pack and be different. Engage her on an emotional level so that you appear interesting and unique.
2. Ask for her approval
It's no secret that both men and women get nervous on a first date. Men, however, tend to have the urge to impress a woman they just met which causes them to make a very common mistake. They ask for the woman's approval.
"How do you like me so far?" is a phrase you'll often hear insecure men whisper to their date midway through the evening. Seeking approval from a woman on a first date is the epitome of insecurity. It communicates zero confidence and tells the woman that you've already chosen her, now it's just a matter if she will choose you.
Instead, try switching things around. Get her to seek approval from you. Tell her she's making mistakes and that she's going to have to put in extra effort in wining you over. This makes the date more playful and increases sexual tension which leads to attraction.
3. Put the ball in her court
Imagine you've been texting a woman for a week and you've asked her out on three different occasions. Each time, she turned you down giving you some excuse. You might think she's just not interested and has no intention of going out with you, but there might be more going on here.
Essentially you've put the ball in her court. You throw her the ball and ask her to throw it back. Instead, try tempting her by showing her the ball first and then getting her to ask you to throw it.
For instance, instead of saying "Hey, do you want to go out Saturday night?" say "Hey, I'm going to the museum Thursday night to check out the new exhibit. If you'd like to join me, text me by tomorrow night and I may let you come, depending on how cute you ask me."
See the difference? The first example has the guy chasing the girl because he's putting the decision to go out entirely on her. But the second example turns things around so that the guy encourages the girl to chase him. He's a confident, intelligent guy who's got his life together and couldn't care less whether a woman accompanies him or not. Which guy would you rather be?
4. Ask her to be the man
Another big mistake men make on a first date is asking the woman where she wants to go or what she wants to do. Men have sound intentions when they do this as they are trying to ensure the woman has a good time. But doing so essentially puts the role of the man, i.e., the leader on the woman's shoulders.
If you take away just one thing from this article, make sure it's this: "All women want to be led." This goes double for a first date. Women want to be led by a man into an emotionally charged experience they wouldn't have the courage to do on their own.
You don't have to lead them on a death defying adventure either, just make it something fun that she's never done before. This could be as simple as teaching her a new dance or taking her to a restaurant to try a different type of cuisine. Remember, you are leading her, not vice versa.
5. Give her all the power
Finally, when you're on a first date with a woman, never give her all your power. The points I described above are all tied into your personal power as a man. Don't just give it to her at the drop of a hat.
Regardless of how attractive she is, make sure you make it clear that she has to work hard to win you over. Communicate this in a fun and flirty way throughout the date and you'll stir up those coveted feelings of attraction inside her.
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